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As pastors of the Catholic Church in the United States, we state as clearly and strongly as we can that violence against women, inside or outside the home, is never justified. Violence in any form"—physical, sexual, psychological, or verbal"—is sinful; often, it is a crime as well. We have called for a moral revolution to replace a culture of violence. We acknowledge that violence has many forms, many causes, and many victims—men as well as women.2
The Catholic Church teaches that violence against another person in any form fails to treat that person as someone worthy of love. Instead, it treats the person as an object to be used. When violence occurs within a sacramental marriage, the abused spouse may question, "How do these violent acts relate to my promise to take my spouse for better or for worse?" The person being assaulted needs to know that acting to end the abuse does not violate the marriage promises. While violence can be directed towards men, it tends to harm women and children more.
In 1992 we spoke out against domestic violence. We called on the Christian community to work vigorously against it. Since then, many dioceses, parishes, and organizations have made domestic violence a priority issue. We commend and encourage these efforts.
In this update of our 1992 statement, we again express our desire to offer the Church's resources to both the women who are abused and the men who abuse. Both groups need Jesus' strength and healing.3
We focus here on violence against women, since 85 percent of the victims of reported cases of non-lethal domestic violence are women.4 Women's greatest risk of violence comes from intimate partners—a current or former husband or boyfriend.5
Violence against women in the home has serious repercussions for children. Over 50 percent of men who abuse their wives also beat their children.6 Children who grow up in violent homes are more likely to develop alcohol and drug addictions and to become abusers themselves.7 The stage is set for a cycle of violence that may continue from generation to generation.
The Church can help break this cycle. Many abused women seek help first from the Church because they see it as a safe place. Even if their abusers isolate them from other social contacts, they may still allow them to go to church. Recognizing the critical role that the Church can play, we address this statement to several audiences:
The National Domestic Violence Hotline provides crisis intervention and referrals to local service providers. Call 800-799-SAFE (7233) or 800-787-3224 (TTY). For more information, go to www.thehotline.org. Hotline Advocates are available to chat online, Monday to Friday, 9AM-7PM CST.
Domestic violence is any kind of behavior that a person uses to control an intimate partner through fear and intimidation. It includes physical, sexual, psychological, verbal, and economic abuse. Some examples of domestic abuse include battering, name-calling and insults, threats to kill or harm one's partner or children, destruction of property, marital rape, and forced sterilization or abortion.8
Younger, unmarried women are at greatest risk for domestic violence. According to a U.S. government survey, 53 percent of victims were abused by a current or former girlfriend or boyfriend. One-third of all victims were abused by a spouse, while 14 percent said that the offender was an ex-spouse. Women ages 16 to 24 are nearly three times as vulnerable to attacks by intimate partners as those in other age groups; abuse victims between ages 35 and 49 run the highest risk of being killed.9
While abuse cuts across all ethnic and economic backgrounds, some women face particular obstacles. Women of color may not view the criminal justice system as a source of help. Additionally, in some cultures women feel pressured to keep problems within the home and to keep the family together at all costs. Some fear that they will lose face in the community if they leave. Immigrant women often lack familiarity with the language and legal systems of this country. Their abusers may threaten them with deportation.
Women in rural communities may find themselves with fewer resources. The isolation imposed by distance and lack of transportation can aggravate their situation. Isolation can also be a factor for women who do not work outside the home. They may have less access to financial resources and to information about domestic violence. Women with disabilities and elderly women are also particularly vulnerable to violence.
Some who suffer from domestic violence are also victims of stalking, which includes following a person, making harassing phone calls, and vandalizing property. Eight percent of women in the United States have been stalked at some time in their lives, and more than one million are stalked annually.10 Stalking is a unique crime because stalkers are obsessed with controlling their victims' actions and feelings. A victim can experience extreme stress, rage, depression, and an inability to trust anyone.
Domestic violence is often shrouded in silence. People outside the family hesitate to interfere, even when they suspect abuse is occurring. Many times even extended family denies that abuse exists, out of loyalty to the abuser and in order to protect the image of the family. Some people still argue—mistakenly—that intervention by outside sources endangers the sanctity of the home. Yet abuse and assault are no less serious when they occur within a family. Even when domestic violence is reported, sometimes there are failures to protect victims adequately or to punish perpetrators.
Domestic violence is learned behavior. Men who batter learn to abuse through observation, experience, and reinforcement. They believe that they have a right to use violence; they are also rewarded, that is, their behavior gives them power and control over their partner.
Abusive men come from all economic classes, races, religions, and occupations. The batterer may be a "good provider" and a respected member of his church and community. While there is no one type, men who abuse share some common characteristics. They tend to be extremely jealous, possessive, and easily angered. A man may fly into a rage because his spouse called her mother too often or because she didn't take the car in for servicing. Many try to isolate their partners by limiting their contact with family and friends.
Typically, abusive men deny that the abuse is happening, or they minimize it. They often blame their abusive behavior on someone or something other than themselves. They tell their partner, "You made me do this."
Many abusive men hold a view of women as inferior. Their conversation and language reveal their attitude towards a woman's place in society. Many believe that men are meant to dominate and control women.
Alcohol and drugs are often associated with domestic violence, but they do not cause it. An abusive man who drinks or uses drugs has two distinct problems: substance abuse and violence. Both must be treated.
Women stay with men who abuse them primarily out of fear. Some fear that they will lose their children. Many believe that they cannot support themselves, much less their children.
When the first violent act occurs, the woman is likely to be incredulous. She believes her abuser when he apologizes and promises that it will not happen again. When it does—repeatedly—many women believe that if they just act differently they can stop the abuse. They may be ashamed to admit that the man they love is terrorizing them. Some cannot admit or realize that they are battered women. Others have endured trauma and suffer from battered womaen syndrome.
REMEMBER: Some battered women run a high risk of being killed when they leave their abuser or seek help from the legal system. It is important to be honest with women about the risks involved. If a woman decides to leave, she needs to have a safety plan, including the names and phone numbers of shelters and programs. Some victims may choose to stay at this time because it seems safer. Ultimately, abused women must make their own decisions about staying or leaving.
Religion can be either a resource or a roadblock for battered women. As a resource, it encourages women to resist mistreatment. As a roadblock, its misinterpretation can contribute to the victim's self-blame and suffering and to the abuser's rationalizations.
Abused women often say, "I can't leave this relationship. The Bible says it would be wrong." Abusive men often say, "The Bible says my wife should be submissive to me." They take the biblical text and distort it to support their right to batter.
As bishops, we condemn the use of the Bible to support abusive behavior in any form. A correct reading of Scripture leads people to an understanding of the equal dignity of men and women and to relationships based on mutuality and love. Beginning with Genesis, Scripture teaches that women and men are created in God's image. Jesus himself always respected the human dignity of women. Pope John Paul II reminds us that "Christ's way of acting, the Gospel of his words and deeds, is a consistent protest against whatever offends the dignity of women."11
Men who abuse often use Ephesians 5:22, taken out of context, to justify their behavior, but the passage (v. 21-33) refers to the mutual submission of husband and wife out of love for Christ. Husbands should love their wives as they love their own body, as Christ loves the Church.
Men who batter also cite Scripture to insist that their victims forgive them (see, for example, Mt 6:9-15). A victim then feels guilty if she cannot do so. Forgiveness, however, does not mean forgetting the abuse or pretending that it did not happen. Neither is possible. Forgiveness is not permission to repeat the abuse. Rather, forgiveness means that the victim decides to let go of the experience and move on with greater insight and conviction not to tolerate abuse of any kind again.
An abused woman may see her suffering as just punishment for a past deed for which she feels guilty. She may try to explain suffering by saying that it is "God's will" or "part of God's plan for my life" or "God's way of teaching me a lesson." This image of a harsh, cruel God runs contrary to the biblical image of a kind, merciful, and loving God. Jesus went out of his way to help suffering women. Think of the woman with the hemorrhage (Mk 5:25-34) or the woman caught in adultery (Jn 8:1-11). God promises to be present to us in our suffering, even when it is unjust.
Finally, we emphasize that no person is expected to stay in an abusive marriage. Some abused women believe that church teaching on the permanence of marriage requires them to stay in an abusive relationship. They may hesitate to seek a separation or divorce. They may fear that they cannot re-marry in the Church. Violence and abuse, not divorce, break up a marriage. We encourage abused persons who have divorced to investigate the possibility of seeking an annulment. An annulment, which determines that the marriage bond is not valid, can frequently open the door to healing.
Many church ministers want to help abused women but worry that they are not experts on domestic violence. Clergy may hesitate to preach about domestic violence because they are unsure what to do if an abused woman approaches them for help.
We ask them to keep in mind that intervention by church ministers has three goals, in the following order:
One source of healing we have in our lives as Christians is prayer. Psalm 55 may be an especially apt prayer for women who are dealing with abusive situations. With all of you we pray these verses:
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National Domestic Violence Hotline: www.thehotline.org/
Marriage: Love and Life in the Divine Plan, United States Conference of Catholic Bishops, No. 7-092 (English), No. 7-815 (Spanish).
Walk in the Light: A Pastoral Response to Child Sexual Abuse, United States Conference of Catholic Bishops, No. 5-000 (English), No. 5-001 (Spanish).
Create in Me a Clean Heart: A Pastoral Response to Pornography, United States Conference of Catholic Bishops, No. 7-475 (English). Available in Spanish on the USCCB website: www.usccb.org/cleanheart.
Catechism of the Catholic Church (second edition), United States Conference of Catholic Bishops, No. 5-110 (English), No. 4-828 (Spanish).
Bishop Ricardo Ramirez, CSB, Speaking the Unspeakable: A Pastoral Letter on Domestic Violence (2001). Available from the Diocese of Las Cruces in English and Spanish: www.dioceseoflascruces.org/pastoral-letters.html.
Pope John Paul II, On the Dignity and Vocation of Women (Mulieris Dignitatem). Available on the Vatican website: http://w2.vatican.va/content/john-paul-ii/en/apost_letters/1988/documents/hf_jp-ii_apl_19880815_mulieris-dignitatem.html (English), http://w2.vatican.va/content/john-paul-ii/es/apost_letters/1988/documents/hf_jp-ii_apl_19880815_mulieris-dignitatem.html (Spanish).
Pope John Paul II, The Gospel of Life (Evangelium Vitae), United States Conference of Catholic Bishops, No. 316-7 (English), No. 317-5 (Spanish).
Pope John Paul II, Letter to Women, United States Conference of Catholic Bishops, No. 5-052 (English). Available in Spanish on the Vatican website: https://w2.vatican.va/content/john-paul-ii/es/letters/1995/documents/hf_jp-ii_let_29061995_women.html.
1 Excerpted from "When Home Is Where the Hurt Is," Christopher News Notes, no. 326.
2 Confronting a Culture of Violence: A Catholic Framework for Action. A Pastoral Message of the U.S. Catholic Bishops (Washington, DC: USCCB, 1994); Pontifical Council for Justice and Peace, Compendium of the Social Doctrine of the Church (LEV-USCCB, 2004), nos. 81, 488, and 494-496; and Forming Consciences for Faithful Citizenship: A Call to Political Responsibility from the Catholic Bishops of the United States with Introductory Note (Washington, DC: USCCB, 2015), nos. 84 and 92.
3 See Pope John Paul II, Encyclical letter The Gospel of Life (Washington, DC: United States Conference of Catholic Bishops, 1995), nos. 2, 23, and 99.
4 "Intimate Partner Violence: Fact sheet." National Crime Victimization Survey, 1992-1996. For updated information, see M. Berzofsky et al., "Female Victims of Sexual Violence, 1994-2010," Bureau of Justice Statistics (November 2012) www.bjs.gov/index.cfm?ty=pbdetail&iid=4536.
5 Full Report of the Prevalence, Incidence, and Consequences of Violence Against Women, Findings from the National Violence Against Women Survey (November 2000). www.ncjrs.gov. For updated information, see National Center for Injury Prevention and Control, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, "The National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey: 2010 Summary Report" (November 2011) www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/nisvs_report2010-a.pdf and R. Morgan and J. Truman, "Nonfatal Domestic Violence, 2003-2012," Bureau of Justice Statistics (April 2014) www.bjs.gov/index.cfm?ty=pbdetail&iid=4984.
6 "Developments in the Law—Legal Responses to Domestic Violence," Harvard Law Review 106 (1993):7: 1608-9. Cited in Carol J. Adams, Woman-Battering (Minneapolis: Fortress Press, 1994), 22. In 1995 the National Conference of Catholic Bishops (now United States Conference of Catholic Bishops) addressed one form of child abuse: child sexual abuse in a home or family setting. See Walk in the Light: A Pastoral Response to Child Sexual Abuse (Washington, DC: United States Conference of Catholic Bishops, 1995).
7 "Intimate Partner Violence: Fact sheet." National Crime Victimization Survey, 1992-1996.
8 In regard to sexual abuse, see Catechism of the Catholic Church (Washington, DC: United States Conference of Catholic Bishops, 2000), no. 2356; The Gospel of Life, nos. 3, 23, and 99; and Pope John Paul II's "Letter to Women," no. 5, and "Welcome to Gertrude Mongella, Secretary General of the Fourth World Conference on Women," no. 7, in Pope John Paul II on The Genius of Women (Washington, D.C.: United States Conference of Catholic Bishops, 1997). In regard to verbal abuse, see Catechism, nos. 2477, 2479, 2482-2487, and 2507-2509.
9 U.S. Bureau of Justice Statistics, "Intimate Partner Violence and Age of Victim, 1993-99" (NCJ-187635). www.bjs.gov/content/pub/pdf/ipva99.pdf. For updated information, see R. Morgan and J. Truman, "Nonfatal Domestic Violence, 2003-2012," Bureau of Justice Statistics (April 2014) www.bjs.gov/index.cfm?ty=pbdetail&iid=4984.
10 "Stalking in America: Findings from the National Violence Against Women Survey," Joint Report from the National Institute of Justice and the National Center for Injury Prevention and Control (April 1998). For updated information, see S. Catalano, "Stalking Victims in the United States—Revised," Bureau of Justice Statistics (September 2012) www.bjs.gov/index.cfm?ty=pbdetail&iid=1211 and National Center for Injury Prevention and Control, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, "The National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey: 2010 Summary Report" (November 2011) www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/nisvs_report2010-a.pdf.
11 Pope John Paul II, On the Dignity and Vocation of Women (Mulieris Dignitatem), no. 15.
The original document When I Call for Help: A Pastoral Response to Domestic Violence Against Women was developed by the Committee on Women in Society and in the Church and the Committee on Marriage and Family of the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops (USCCB), approved for publication by the Administrative Committee in September 1992, and affirmed by the full body of U.S. Catholic bishops at its November 1992 General Meeting. This revised tenth anniversary edition was approved by the full body of U.S. Catholic bishops at its November 2002 General Meeting and has been authorized for publication by the undersigned.
Msgr. William P. Fay
General Secretary, USCCB
Opening excerpt from Christopher News Notes. Used with permission.
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