Family Retreat - LaNAve

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Return to Me: Families Who Imitate the Loving Father in Luke 15:11-32

by Anna LaNave, MAPS
Ministry Coordinator, Landings International

Goal: Opportunity to examine the journey of faith for each family member through reflection on the Parable of the Prodigal Son. The retreat will include time for personal reflection in preparation for the Sacrament of Reconciliation. The retreat should take 90 minutes–2 hours.

Note: Plan retreat for Saturday morning if Reconciliation is offered in the afternoon. Otherwise, ask parish priest to attend so that the sacrament can be offered to all retreatants.

Materials/Set Up

Prayer table with open Bible, candle (at front)

Two packed suitcases or backpacks (under prayer table)

Suitcase one: Items for a vacation (clothes, sunglasses, bathing suit, camera, snacks, etc.)

Suitcase two: Things for a spiritual journey (Bible, rosary, missal, hymnal, holy cards of saints, Holy Communion banner [representing the Eucharist], etc., paper/crayons if younger children)

Free coloring pages 1 and 2

Easel (or chalkboard) with paper/pens or overhead for group discussion

CD player/computer; suggested music:

"Turn to Me" by John Foley, SJ (St. Louis Jesuits)

"Hosea: Come Back to Me" by Gregory Norbet (OCP)

"There Is a Wideness in God's Mercy" by Frederick William Faber (traditional)

Copies of the USCCB bulletin insert on "How to Go to Confession,"

Seat family groups at round tables with pencils, crayons/coloring pages (if small children), and handouts A-D


Introductions (15 minutes)

Opening prayer (5 minutes)

Family reflection: Spiritual Journeys of Our Parents (20 minutes)

Meditation: Luke 15:11-32 (20 minutes)

Break (10 minutes)

Personal reflection (20 minutes) (refreshments for younger children/coloring of the Prodigal Son story)

Group sharing (15 minutes)

Review of Sacrament of Reconciliation (5 minutes)

Closing song/prayer (5 minutes)


Introductions (15 minutes)

Leader: Everyone likes to go on trips, to have adventures. I'd like the head of each family to introduce their family and one of the younger children to tell us where you traveled to on a recent vacation.

When we go on a trip, we have to take some things with us. (Show contents of suitcase one by having a younger child join you in pulling out items.)

We are all also on a spiritual journey of faith, a journey that starts with our Baptism into the family of God and continues into heaven, where we will be with God. This is a very important journey with many happy times and some sad times. It is a journey of getting to know our Heavenly Father and building a relationship with him. Our spiritual journey takes special kinds of tools. (Show contents of suitcase two by having younger child help. Pull out the contents and explain how they help us on our faith journey. Represent the sacraments through symbols/pictures).

Our spiritual journey will not be easy. There will be hard times when we feel far away from God and times when we feel close. The Sacrament of Reconciliation, which we will celebrate today, "restor[es] us to God's grace and join[s] us with him in an intimate friendship" (Catechism of the Catholic Church [CCC], 2nd ed. [Washington, DC: Libreria Editrice Vaticana (LEV)–United States Conference of Catholic Bishops (USCCB), 2000], no. 1468.

As we begin our journey today, let's start with a prayer. Many of the heroes of the Bible wandered far away from the will of God. King David, a man after God's own heart, wrote about his own sins and his need for cleansing. Join me in one of his many prayers, Psalm 51:3-15.

Opening Prayer: Psalm 51: 3-15 (unison)—Handout A

Family Reflection: Spiritual Journeys of Our Parents (20 minutes)

Leader: Parents, we'd like your children to get to know you a little better. In every spiritual journey toward God, there are times of doubt and times of faith, times of broken relationships and times of reconciliation. Would you take the next twenty minutes to tell your spiritual story to your family? Who were your Catholic influences? Did you ever stop going to Mass? What brought you back to regular Mass attendance? Why do you think the Sacrament of Penance is important? Give one special moment where you saw the loving Father at work in your life. (Leader, write questions on board or easel paper.)

Our meditation today will be on the story of a young son who left on a journey and returned home to discover the true depth of his father's love.

Meditation on Luke 15:11-32 (20 minutes)

Leader: Close your eyes, and I will read this story slowly twice. Think of yourself watching the events unfold. Pay attention to the attitudes of the younger son, the older brother, and the father. What do you see? What do you feel?

Let's look at the characteristics of each of the family members—both virtues and sins. (Have volunteer write them on easel paper or chalk board.)

Some Suggestions

The younger son: impulsive, rebellious, humbled, mean, wild

The older son: reliable, faithful, judgmental, jealous, selfish

The father: loving unconditionally, trusting, letting go

Leader: Keep in mind that, in the Jewish culture, to ask for one's inheritance before the death of the father was to basically say, "You are as good as dead to me." Thus the father's unconditional acceptance of the younger son was even more exceptional.

One of the hardest things to do as a parent is to let our kids make mistakes and find their own way. Many of you struggle with children or other family members who have left the Catholic Church or are no longer practicing. This can be very painful. Don't feel like you have done something wrong, or that God will hold you responsible for your children's choices. This is part of their unique spiritual journey. Know that the foundation of faith you laid in their life will bear fruit.

Many inactive Catholics are looking for an invitation to return. Continue to pray for them, and continue to invite them to Mass. Pressure or guilt is disrespectful to their journey. Know that the Holy Spirit continues to hold them in love. Share with them stories of your own spiritual journey, highs and lows, and how much you love Christ and his Church. Your own Christian witness is the best you can offer them. Ask the Holy Spirit to give you the strength to love without conditions.

Blessed John Paul II encouraged us, "But we know that God, 'rich in mercy,' like the father in the parable, does not close his heart to any of his children. He waits for them, looks for them, goes to meet them at the place where the refusal of communion imprisons them in isolation and division. He calls them to gather about his table in the joy of the feast of forgiveness and reconciliation" (Reconciliation and Penance [Reconciliatio et Paenitentia], no. 10,

Break (10 minutes)

Personal Reflection (20 minutes)

Leader: As we prepare for the Sacrament of Reconciliation, let's reflect on our own spiritual state.

Our Holy Father Francis warns us that we need to be careful to avoid pride as we examine our lives. We may be struggling with the sins of the younger or older brother. Follow along as I read from Handout B.

Take the handouts with you to help you prepare for Reconciliation. Find a quiet place by yourself to answer the reflection questions. (Play quiet music to signal end of the time, about 20 minutes. Younger children can go to the supervised snack table and finish their coloring.)

Group Sharing (15 minutes)

What did you learn about yourself, family members, or God's love?

Review of the Guidelines for the Sacrament of Reconciliation (5 minutes)

Pass out the USCCB Guide for Confession. Leader should review the format of the Sacrament of Reconciliation and answer any questions.

Closing Song/Prayer (5 minutes)

Leader: With this parable we have studied, Jesus offers us a glimpse into who God is and how he loves. He is a God who, upon the sight of his lost child, is filled with compassion and then runs and kisses him. Our Father is passionate about his children and is always ready to welcome us back with boundless love and forgiveness. Let us praise God for his great mercy to us.

Song: "There's a Wideness in God's Mercy" (optional)

Leader: Please join me in our closing prayer (unison, Handout A).

Lord God, even though we wander far from your love, you always are ready to welcome us home. Open our hearts to make a good confession so our lives will more clearly mirror Christ Jesus. We praise you and thank you for our salvation. You are a God of mercy and unimaginable love. Stay close to us as we continue our spiritual journey, and we look forward to receiving your embrace in heaven.

"For [we are] convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor present things, nor future things, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord"(Rom 8:38-39).

We ask for your grace in the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Amen.

Handout A (opening Psalm 51:3-15, Luke 15:11-32, any song lyrics, closing prayer)

Handout B

From Pope Francis's Angelus Address (September 15, 2013)

Jesus is all mercy, Jesus is all love: he is God made man. Each of us, each one of us, is that little lost lamb, the coin that was mislaid; each one of us is that son who has squandered his freedom on false idols, illusions of happiness, and has lost everything. But God does not forget us, the Father never abandons us. He is a patient father, always waiting for us! He respects our freedom, but he remains faithful forever. And when we come back to him, he welcomes us like children into his house, for he never ceases, not for one instant, to wait for us with love. And his heart rejoices over every child who returns. He is celebrating because he is joy. God has this joy, when one of us sinners goes to him and asks his forgiveness.

What is the danger? It is that we presume we are righteous and judge others. We also judge God, because we think that he should punish sinners, condemn them to death, instead of forgiving. So yes, then, we risk staying outside the Father's house! Like the older brother in the parable, who rather than being content that his brother has returned, grows angry with the father who welcomes him and celebrates. If in our heart there is no mercy, no joy of forgiveness, we are not in communion with God, even if we observe all of his precepts, for it is love that saves, not the practice of precepts alone. It is love of God and neighbor that brings fulfillment to all the Commandments. And this is the love of God, his joy: forgiveness. He waits for us always! Maybe someone has some heaviness in his heart: "But, I did this, I did that . . . " He expects you! He is your father: he waits for you always! (

Handout C

Personal Reflection (Adults)

1.What relationships in my life need to be healed, or whom do I need to forgive as God has forgiven me? Resolve to ask the Holy Spirit to help you reconcile with these individuals.

2.How can I better offer the love of Christ to my family, friends, and neighbors? Can I accept God's love for my past actions and forgive myself?

Handout D

Personal Reflection (Children)

1.Sometimes you may feel like the younger brother, ready to go out and experience the world. How did he hurt his family and himself with his actions?

2.The older brother stayed and worked hard for the father. Would you have been jealous of the celebration for the returning younger brother? Why or why not?

3.What can we learn about family from this story?

4.What can you learn about God's love from the actions of the father?

5.As you prepare for the Sacrament of Reconciliation, think of one or two relationships in your life where you can be more loving and kind.

In the future, I promise to ______________________________________.

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