RLP BW flyer: Caring for Loved Ones at Life's End (2016)

RLP BW flyer: Caring for Loved Ones at Life's End

An old Irish proverb says, "It is in the shelter of each other that the people live." Indeed, we are created to depend upon one another and walk together in suffering. But when family members or friends approach life's end, we may not know how best to "shelter" them. Here are some concrete ways we can compassionately care for them. 

1. Invite God in: Pope Francis has said that "praying in difficult situations is like opening the door to the Lord, in order that he might enter."
2. Listen: Try to discover your loved one's values and how best to honor his or her wishes.
3. Inform Yourself: Be aware that wishes for refusing ordinary or proportionate treatment are usually rooted in fears of dependency.
4. Be Steadfast in Compassion: As Pope Francis reminds us, "Compassion means suffer with."
5. Help Them Achieve Closure: Help your family member or friend define the unfinished personal projects, financial concerns, unresolved relationships, or other matters that occupy his or her mind.
6. Provide Opportunities for Resolution: Saying "I love you," "I'm sorry," "I forgive you," and Thank you" can promote much needed healing during the dying process.
7. Reminisce: Our appetites diminish as our bodies experience a decreased need for food and fluids when we are near life's end. Provide smaller amounts of your family member or friend's favorite foods. Even if unable to eat them, he or she may still enjoy the aromas and reminisce with you about special memories they evoke.

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